Today in a guest blog post on Glamour.com, I wrote about tactics for surviving nervous times:
“For starters I engage in the power of realistic thinking. March 18th is my six-month check up, at which I’ll learn the status of two tumors perched on my jugular vein. Of course I’m afraid that my tumors have grown. Who wouldn’t be? And, when I get real with myself about how truly hard this waiting game is, I feel surprisingly better. The same is true for the majority of patients interviewed in my book.
A meditation teacher once gave me this instruction: When a thought enters your mind don’t slam the door on it. Notice it. Gently say to yourself ‘Oh, I’m thinking,’ then come back to focusing on your breath. I do the same with worry too. ‘Oh, I’m worrying again. Right, tumors are scary business.’ Then I go back to folding laundry, writing a chapter, or walking my dog with much less stress than if I were sweeping my fears under the rug of denial.”
I was also sure to mention additional tactics like consuming copious amounts of raw cookie dough, crying on Shannon’s shoulder, and calling my mom at 3 AM.
Whether you have cancer or not, what are your tactics for slugging through nervous times – like worrying about a family member, or managing economic uncertainty? Is it true for you that acknowledging your fear sometimes makes it easier? Or does it do the opposite for you?